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GRATEFUL GIRL'S THOUGHT FOR THE DAY:
In one of my favorite episodes of "Sex and the City," the super confident Samantha, in a rare moment of self-doubt and vulnerability, shows hurt to Carrie after Carrie judges an indiscretion of hers. When recounting the scenario to her friend Stanford, he chides her by saying "Judgy Wuddgy was a bear!" and Carrie realizes she may have unfairly criticized Samantha, after all.
None of us likes to think of ourselves as judgmental. The word itself is rather ugly, is it not? In fact, when we think someone is being judgmental, we immediately discount and dislike them. Which is, ironically, judgmental. Oops.
The reason that it's so dangerous to judge others --and BTW, we all stupidly do it-- is because of the assumption of the act. That assumption being that the judge is, either intellectually, physically, emotionally or in some other way, better than the person being judged. Hmm.
At the risk of reminding us all of one of Thomas Jefferson's best lines ever (that kick-butt one from the Declaration of Independence stating that all men are created equal) - um, we are all equals. That doesn't mean some aren't of a higher IQ --- or enjoy a more flattering bone structure --- or exude a kinder, gentler and more giving nature than others. It simply means that we all roaming around the planet breathing in the same air, facing the same basic survival needs and all longing for acceptance, respect and love. In all the ways that matter, we humans are more alike than different.
We simply need to respect each others' decisions and choices (as long as they don't cause physical or emotional injury to others); even when we don't agree with them. Look, if you want to wear flip flops with your pearls or vacation in Antarctica or put mustard on your scrambled eggs, that's your privilege. I won't judge you -- besides someone with my eating habits has no stone to throw at your glass house, okay?
Let's all try harder to leave the judgment where it belongs. In a higher court --- a much higher court, Capisce? Judge not, yo...
Heb 4:12 R. Alleluia, alleluia. The word of God is living and effective, able to discern reflections and thoughts of the heart. Gospel Mt 7:1-5 Jesus said to his disciples: "Stop judging, that you may not be judged. For as you judge, so will you be judged, and the measure with which you measure will be measured out to you. Why do you notice the splinter in your brother's eye, but do not perceive the wooden beam in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, 'Let me remove that splinter from your eye,' while the wooden beam is in your eye? You hypocrite, remove the wooden beam from your eye first; then you will see clearly to remove the splinter from your brother's eye." PHOTO: https://www.google.com/search?q=free+photos+of+scrambled+eggs&tbm=isch&tbo=u&source=univ&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwiNjNTt6dvUAhVGaT4KHbf7BekQsAQIOw&biw=1920&bih=1070&dpr=1#imgrc=sx_WSPmnCZiUaM: