From a nervous college graduate stepping through the front lobby of his first real job in the world to a veteran rock star taking the stage for her 872nd concert to a preschooler wobbling into the daycare center on Day #1 to the CEO of a multi-million dollar corporation taking the microphone at a business conference attended by hundreds... and broadcast live all over the planet via webinar.
Self-doubt. Far too often, it's what's for dinner. And lunch. And breakfast. And snack time.
Know what else is true about self-doubt? There's only one person in the world who can wrangle that angry bull...and you know this human very, very well.
Indeed, no matter what happens nor what anyone says, the superhero who can slay self-doubt in a single bound with one arm tied behind their back and blindfolded is you.
In fact, blindfolded might be the best way to tame that beast.
Because it's what's INSIDE that counts: your intentions, your commitment, your dedication, your preparation, your passion --- your heart. And if all those internal indicators are telling you you've done your best and put forth a commendable effort, then self-doubt's just going to have to take the last train to Clarksville, you dig?
Look, there's always going to be someone out there who doesn't believe in you ... and at least a handful who DO. Make sure you're on that second list and all will be well.
Trust your old pal PK. #BelieveInYourself #HatersGonnaHate #LetGoOfSelfDoubt
Mt 18:1-5, 10, 12-14 The disciples approached Jesus and said, “Who is the greatest in the Kingdom of heaven?” He called a child over, placed it in their midst, and said, “Amen, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will not enter the Kingdom of heaven. Whoever becomes humble like this child is the greatest in the Kingdom of heaven. And whoever receives one child such as this in my name receives me. See that you do not despise one of these little ones, for I say to you that their angels in heaven always look upon the face of my heavenly Father...it is not the will of your heavenly Father that one of these little ones be lost.”
You may know her, you may not. You may love her, you may not. I know who she is and much about her from her very public starring role on Bravo TV's "Real Housewives of New York City."
In fact, Bethenny Frankel is my favorite of all the housewives among all the offerings in the franchise. NYC is the coolest show and Bethenny is, by far, my top housewife. Except, of course, that she's not a housewife.
This single mother is chef by trade but is also an entrepreneur extraordinaire and mogul; creator of the "Skinny Girl" line of alcoholic beverages, foods, jeans, etc. She is also an amateur property flipper and is the founder of the non-profit Be Strong organization which helps women in crisis all over the world. I love her because she did it own her own; she didn't marry or inherit money. And once she became a gazillionaire, she did what good peeps do -- she paid it forward. She's been a Martha Stewart Apprentice, Danced (and Skated!) with the Stars and had her own short-lived talk show. Impressive.
All that being said, Bethenny ain't easy, yo. She's crass and brash and honest to a fault. She's no-holds-barred and shoots it straight, whether you like it or not. I'm sure she'd be rough from time to time as a boss or a wife or a BFF but she'd sure take care of you when the chips were down. She's passionate and hilarious and loyal, despite being burned many, many times. Most recently by former BFF and complete Benedict Arnold Carole Radziwill. She's been rotten to Bethenny all year. I digress.
She's not perfect. Bethenny definitely says some cutting things. And yes, a few days before her intermittent boyfriend, NYC businessman Dennis Shields was found dead in an apparent overdose of Oxycontin, an episode of RH of NYC aired in which she mentioned loving Shields although he wasn't necessarily the one for her. After his death, the onslaught began. Many on social media and even in the mainstream media are saying her comments somehow prompted the tragic end result. Look, here's all I know:
1. It seems perhaps Mr. Shields had something of an issue with this problem, given the fact that he had the emergency OD-reverse drug Narcan at the ready in his apartment. Sadly, it was administered too late. 2. RH episodes are filmed MONTHS in advance of airing; the duo probably not only spoke since Bethenny made those comments but likely reconciled and broke up several times afterward; that was their history. 3. It's unfair to blame a person for an impulsively, irreversible bad choice made by someone else -- even if it was their significant other. 4. We are ALL going through our own struggles. Shields, Bethenny, you, me, the grumpy old neighbor lady whose always yelling at you for no apparent reason. All of us are delicate at any given moment; even a tough girl like Bethenny. We're all just doing our best, Capisce? 5. Try to remember how fragile life is: speak kindly, love boldly, laugh heartily, and consider the potential consequences of your actions. Always be kind to the humans on planet earth; beginning and ending with you. 6. PRAY; you just may be surprised how much it helps the person for whom you're praying...and YOU. 7. Shut your big fat yap, Carole Radziwill.
#TeamBethenny #BeKind #BeStrong
PS 148:1-2, 11-12, 13, 14 R. Heaven and earth are filled with your glory. Praise the LORD from the heavens; praise him from the heights. Praise him, all you his angels; praise him, all you his hosts. Let the kings of the earth and all peoples, the princes and all the judges of the earth, Young men too, and maidens, old men and boys, Praise the name of the LORD, for his name alone is exalted; His majesty is above earth and heaven. And he has lifted up the horn of his people. Be this his praise from all his faithful ones, from the children of Israel, the people close to him. See 2 Thes 2:14 God has called you through the Gospel To possess the glory of our Lord Jesus Christ.
I was having an INXS concert in my ears…well, in my office while I whittled away on a press release but via my Amazon music library on my I-phone and made possible via my ear buds. Sorta.
You see, they kept falling out of what are clearly grotesquely enlarged and hideously misshapen ears. I can never get those little buggers to stay in. And YES, I am putting them in the designated ear but that doesn’t matter. They still won’t stick.
Stupid, big old awkward Patty ears. Hmpf.
I quickly became irritated at the constant, unwanted intermissions and the slightly tyrannical mandate of which bud must be applied to what ear in the first place (really, ear bud makers?). Soon I was longing for my Walkman. Ah, the Walkman: that fabulous, trendsetting portable radio/cassette player of old.
Created by Sony in 1979, it was once the pinnacle in mobile music – especially for the average Joe since there were many affordable options back then. When I was a ‘tween, we all had one and we all loved them.
Sure, the headphones were funny-looking and made your ears sweat but they were also practical and never slipped off because they were secured by an overarching um, tiara.
Okay fine, it was a hideous plastic headpiece that made me look even dorkier than normal during my awkward “I got my hair cut too short and now people think I’m a boy” adolescent phase. #Whatever
And yes, you had to manually flip the tape in early versions but still, the joyful memories it evoked juxtaposed with my ire at my expensive, state-of-the-art and totally worthless ear buds reminded me that certain things were just fine before, thank you very much.
Don’t go new Millennium rage on me; I’m all for the home, office, entertainment and especially medical advancements in technology and all the advantages and conveniences they provide.
It’s just that some things were better in their original form, you dig? Stuff like KFC or Coca Cola or Ho-Hos. I asked around to see if others agreed.
My pal Linda did and cast her top vote for the ORIGINAL original recipe KFC. You know, the way they made it back when the Colonel was alive (for real) and we were allowed to call it fried chicken.
My sister Gina took the 1983 Nerf foam ball and ran with it, yo.
She started with the Ho-Hos. “I want Ho Hos wrapped in foil! And York Steak House sautéed sirloin tips! Bring back CHI CHI’s and the Slim Jim’s from Morgan’s Big Boy!”
Speaking of which, Gina was on a roll.
“I miss all the cute Coca Cola jingles and ‘Gee, Your Hair Smells Terrific Shampoo’ plus Band-Aids in tin cans and a bonafide full-service gas station!” (I’m not positive but I think there are a few fillin’ stations down south that still literally wait on their customers?)
My friend Lizzie just wishes TV remotes weren’t so complicated and that they offered a few hundred less options. (Okay, but I DO love my Bravo and AMC shows, just sayin’.)
All my poor niece Kelly wants back is the Oxford comma. #Preach She gets this from me, BTW.
So, if you need me, I’ll be jamming to Culture Club on my Walkman, playing hacky sack and losing a filling on Jawbreakers. I might even splurge with an Orange Julius because they’re totally tubular.
Kimerer is Tribune Chronicle columnist who just wants Smurf-Berry Crunch cereal okay? Tell her about the things YOU miss at www.patriciakimerer.com
Sponsored by email@example.com MT 16:18 And I say to you, that you are Peter, and on this rock I will build my church, and the gates of the netherworld shall not prevail against it. Dear Jerk Who Tried to Scam My Father-in-Law Earlier, First, let me say that, not only are you NOT my son but you couldn't even begin to come close to the man he is, let alone have the audacity to pretend that you are, indeed, Kyle.
Not only is my son honest and honorable but he would not stoop anywhere near the lowlife gutter where you clearly reside.
Kyle would never call a stranger, feigning injury and incarceration while claiming to be the grandson of said stranger, begging for help in the form of $2500 in lawyer retainer/bond fees.
You couldn't be a wart on the bottom of Kyle's foot, yo. He's no criminal, he's no liar, he's no jerk. But you are, since you think senior citizens are stupid.
You found out they aren't when you told your "Grandpa" that he had to wire you cash right away. Sure, like any grandparent would be, my father-in-law was startled at first, thinking that one of his kids' kids could be in trouble.
But soon he began to doubt your story and when you claimed to be too terrified of me and Kyle's Dad to tell us you wrecked your car, you tipped your hand completely. "Well, I'll bring you the money but I'm also going to bring your father," said your "granddad" just in time to hear you hit the off button.
Why can't you use your powers for good instead of evil, you rotten little snot? If I were you, "Kyle," I'd keep an eye over your shoulder 'cause you may just have a policeman tapping it sometime soon.
Of course I've seen it dozens of times. Who hasn't?
In fact, when Kerry and I were young and first married, we used to throw parties at which we'd watch the entire trilogy. I'd make homemade pasta, sauce, meatballs and bread and he'd get a bunch of different types of red wine.
We'd put red-and-white checkered tablecloths, linen napkins and wooden bread baskets out on tables all around the house and patio. Frank Sinatra and Dean Martin music was blaring...not to mention the original soundtrack, natch.
And no matter how many times it is broadcast on AMC, TCM, WGN or any other network or cable movie network, I will watch "The Godfather." Every installment. All of it. Every time. Last night, I watched Part One for the 7,490th time, BTW.
I'm not sure if Mario Puzo made me an offer I couldn't refuse after my initial viewing or what, but I simply cannot and will not stop watching these films whenever it is humanly possible. WHY? Could be the obvious life lesson messages (other than keeping your enemies closer than your pals): 1 -Don't make a promise unless you intend to deliver. 2 -Mind your own business...stay out of other people's. 3 -Family is the most important thing, period so NEVER GO AGAINST YOUR FAMILY. 4 -Close friends are ALMOST as important as family. 5 -Keep your emotions in check; don't act out of anger, especially.
Or it could be the super cool throwback cars and clothes and music. Maybe it's the dichotomy the whole thing represents: I mean, these guys are RUTHLESS CRIMINALS yet I'm rooting for the family every single time. Part of me always wishes against hope that Sonny will NOT fly off the handle to his complete annihilation at the tool booth ambush in the first flick. *See rule #5.
Then again, maybe I just have a mad crush on early 1970s-era Al Pacino, James Caan and Robert DeNiro. #Truth
For those of you who STILL haven't seen any of the GODFATHER trilogy...rectify this immediately. Or risk sleeping with the fishes, Capisce?
Mt 15: 21-28 At that time Jesus withdrew to the region of Tyre and Sidon ... And behold, a Canaanite woman ... called out, "Have pity on me, Lord, Son of David! My daughter is tormented by a demon." ... He said in reply, "I was sent only to the lost sheep of the house of Israel." But the woman came and did him homage, saying, "Lord, help me." He said in reply, "It is not right to take the food of the children and throw it to the dogs." She said, "Please, Lord, for even the dogs eat the scraps that fall from the table of their masters." Then Jesus said to her in reply, "O woman, great is your faith! Let it be done for you as you wish." And her daughter was healed from that hour.
I mean, sure, there are a ton of things in this world over which you have no control. That's called reality.
And yes, there are and always will be a bazillion other things about which you haven't the slightest clue. And for you teen/early 20-somethings (and younger), this is an important lesson to learn ASAP, okay? It's not a crime that you don't know everything; shh...here's a secret: nobody on earth does. Not even you. Deal with it. And speaking of dealing...
Whether or not you choose to go for a Royal Straight, a Full House, Four of a Kind or even just stick with the two pair you were dealt; you really are holding the cards. Be smart with them; don't go all in for a pair of deuces, Capisce? Careful with the bluffing. Protect your hand, yo, because you only get so many cards. BT Dubs, these are the cards: -Being kind...always. -Seeing the positive in others. -Laughing --- a lot. Every day. Especially at situations that go horribly wrong but through which no one is harmed in any way. -Reacting to a bully, grump or big ol' meany pants. -Respecting others' rights and opinions. And their rights to their opinions; even if you don't share them. -Giving; especially to those in greatest need. -Caring about the earth and its dwellers. -Finding beauty ... even when it's hiding really, really well. -Forgiving. This includes you. -Showing gratitude. Every day. -PRAYING. 'Nuff said.
Good luck, keep an eye on your chips and, whatever else you do, please play fair.
Mt 14:22-36 Jesus made the disciples get into a boat and precede him to the other side of the sea ... Meanwhile the boat, already a few miles offshore, was being tossed about by the waves ... he came toward them, walking on the sea. When the disciples saw him walking on the sea they were terrified ... At once Jesus spoke to them, "Take courage, it is I; do not be afraid." Peter said to him in reply, "Lord, if it is you, command me to come to you on the water." He said, "Come." Peter got out of the boat and began to walk on the water toward Jesus. But when he saw how strong the wind was he became frightened; and, beginning to sink, he cried out, "Lord, save me!" Immediately Jesus stretched out his hand and caught him, and said to him, "O you of little faith, why did you doubt?" After they got into the boat, the wind died down. Those who were in the boat did him homage, saying, "Truly, you are the Son of God."
I love Maya Angelou. Who doesn't? Whoever they are, they need to see me immediately, if not sooner, you dig? #MayaAngelouRules
She had this way of saying things simply, concisely and yet so profoundly that they resonate on a deep emotional level long after a reader has stopped looking words on a page or screen. Few authors have her gift for evoking such impact and physical response from their words.
I have always been amazed, humbled and inspired by her works. One of my favorite quotes by Dr. Angelou (I'm always afraid I'm mispronouncing her last name...even in my head?) is a very brief one:
"I have found that among its other benefits, giving liberates the soul of the giver."
Yeah, you right. Amen.
Of all her important messages and insightful assertions about appreciating life, love of self and reverence for The Almighty (of whom she was clearly a devout advocate, BTW), I find her most meaningful prose and quotes revolve around the concept of being kind; showing compassion -- you know, treating the other humans well.
And so, because she's on my mind in surplus today for some reason, here are some PK takes on what Maya might have to say on a regular old Monday:
-It doesn't matter how grand the gesture, as long as it gladdened one little soul —and even if only for a millisecond. What's time compared to joy?
-Expensive gifts are fine, but the best present you can give someone is to be present for and with them.
-Conduct your daily life as if your plane is going down: Remember that you must first secure your own mask before you can help others breathe easy.
-Pray. Every day. On bad days, pray lots and on good days, pray more -- then pray for the understanding to realize why.
-A happy heart can't heckle, hurt or hate -- it won't shatter itself or any other.
Clearly, I'm no Maya but I do wish you all a day filled with smiles...from the inside out! #Peace #Give #Pray #Love
Sponsored by firstname.lastname@example.org I was chatting with my girlfriend today. We were talking about the things we hate...about ourselves.
Flabby this, wrinkled that. Too much here, not enough there, blah, blah. The funny part is, I can clearly see what's so incredibly beautiful about her. In fact that's all I see in her. #LoveYouLisa
And yet, when I look at myself it's all flaws and imperfections and blech, oh my!
I know we're all our own harshest judge, though some of us impose stiffer sentences than others, I suppose.
But life is so, so precious and short, a fact that smacked me in the face and stuck me through the heart this week at the sudden, tragic loss of a beautiful, brilliant, young and incredibly giving family friend. #EternalRestGrantUntoHerOhLord
I actually couldn't have said it better than my pal Lisa did when she finished our self-beat-up session with; "You know, we're all just working at it, trying to make ourselves better...selves." Indeed.
Every one of us is a work in progress working through somethin', Capisce? So, be kind to the other humans, yo --- starting with the one who stares back at you from the mirror, you dig?
Life's a gift; let's not waste it re-taping the crumpled wrapping paper it came in. Rather, let's just appreciate what's inside as long as we can, okay?
And one more thing: HAPPY BIRTHDAY, KELLY MARIE! I LOVE YOU MORE THAN WORDS, SWEET PEA! MWAH!
#EnjoyToday #ShowCompassion #SelfLove
1 Pt 1:25 R. Alleluia, alleluia. The word of the Lord remains forever; this is the word that has been proclaimed to you. Gospel Mt 13:54-58 Jesus came to his native place and taught the people in their synagogue. They were astonished and said, “Where did this man get such wisdom and mighty deeds? Is he not the carpenter’s son? Is not his mother named Mary..." And they took offense at him. But Jesus said to them, “A prophet is not without honor except in his native place and in his own house.” And he did not work many mighty deeds there because of their lack of faith.