Well, I suppose that depends on your definition of the word "spoil," now, doesn't it?
Okay, fine, whatever. I guess I do.
But here's the thing ---and here me out, as my day boss always says.
Can you ever really show a child too much caring? No, no you cannot.
That's not to say that we should baby our kids forever--it's not good for anyone involved, yo. And I'm not suggesting we back off parenting by not doling out stern discipline when it's needed; that's our job, after all, teaching them right from wrong.
But when your baby is crying or your toddler is scared or your second grader has a scuffed up knee or your tween has her first heartbreak or your teen realizes he needs four-dozen cookies by tomorrow morning and it's 10PM ... well, you hold, you hug, your comfort, you console, you bake (or buy!) ... you just do.
And when your spouse or significant other or parent or sibling or a stranger on the street or ANYONE accuses you of being "too handsy" or "hovering" or "SPOILING"; you just tell them to simmer down ... and that PK said this: "Children are small for a blink, grown in a wink, then head off to think."
Look, their time with us is limited and starts counting down from their very arrival date; I, for one, want to make the most of it. As for the fear of over-loving your child? Forget it because there is simply no such thing.
So...am I always going to put my son before everything on this earth? You're darned tootin' I am. And I'll never apologize for or regret it. He didn't ask to be born, Capsice?
PS 57:2, 3-4, 6 and 11 R. (2a) Have mercy on me, God, have mercy. Have mercy on me, O God; have mercy on me, for in you I take refuge. In the shadow of your wings I take refuge, till harm pass by. I call to God the Most High, to God, my benefactor. May he send from heaven and save me; may he make those a reproach who trample upon me; may God send his mercy and his faithfulness. Be exalted above the heavens, O God; above all the earth be your glory! For your mercy towers to the heavens, and your faithfulness to the skies. Alleluia 2 Cor 5:19 God was reconciling the world to himself in Christ, and entrusting to us the message of reconciliation.
As I heard it, the comment went a little something like this:
“Patty Kimerer….oh, she’s nice --- like, maybe a little too nice, you know what I mean? Come on, no one can be that nice all the time.”
Wow; guess I won't be tossing out the same accusation at her anytime soon. Either way, I think my husband might disagree that I’m kind 24/7, 365, you dig?
Heck, I can be downright crummy on occasion.
In fact, there have been a few days in the last week alone when I actually pondered calling someone a snotface. So there!
I didn’t actually do it. But I thought about it good and long, I’ll tell ya!
Then again...is there actually such a thing as being TOO NICE? Hmm...find out in this Sunday's column:
PK: Losing the Popular Vote by One
ps 56:2-3, 9-10a, 10b-11, 12-13 R. (5b) In God I trust; I shall not fear. Have mercy on me, O God, for men trample upon me; all the day they press their attack against me. My adversaries trample upon me all the day; yes, many fight against me. My wanderings you have counted; my tears are stored in your flask; are they not recorded in your book? Then do my enemies turn back, when I call upon you. Now I know that God is with me. In God, in whose promise I glory, in God I trust without fear; what can flesh do against me? I am bound, O God, by vows to you; your thank offerings I will fulfill. For you have rescued me from death, my feet, too, from stumbling; that I may walk before God in the light of the living. Alleluia See 2 Tm 1:10 Our Savior Jesus Christ has destroyed death and brought life to light through the Gospel.
Have you seen those new commercials for the mega-chain Marriott? They were shot in black and white and promote Courtyard, Fairfield, Four Points and Springhill Suites hotels. In my favorite one, the voice over begins with the words:
"It would be great if human beings were great at being human and if all of mankind were made up of kind women and kind men..."
The spot goes on to depict random acts of compassion being committed on various people in a myriad of situations: A group of people are helping a stranger push a stalled out car; someone else is assisting a woman as she transports her baby (in a stroller) down a flight of stairs; a little girl stands up to a bully picking on a classmate.
It's awesome. #goldenrule
And I have just two questions for Marriott: 1. What does this have to do with the price of a hotel room in China? 2. WHERE THE HECK ARE THESE PEOPLE IN REAL LIFE?
Hmpf. Sorry; crummy morning. I digress. I DO get it, Marriott. Your operational philosophy is based on the Golden Rule of doing unto others as you'd have them do to you. #genuismarketing Kudos on a great work ethic and thanks for the reminder.
And, even though some peeps circling my orbit are displaying the Copper Rule (as in, I wouldn't give ya a penny for the way they treat others), I'm gonna give 'em the gold, anyway; 'cause I know it's the right thing to do.
Besides, throat punching people is illegal, capisce?
Ps 144:1b, 2, 9-10 R. (1) Blessed be the Lord, my Rock! Blessed be the LORD, my rock, who trains my hands for battle, my fingers for war. My refuge and my fortress, my stronghold, my deliverer, My shield, in whom I trust, who subdues my people under me. O God, I will sing a new song to you; with a ten-stringed lyre I will chant your praise, You who give victory to kings, and deliver David, your servant from the evil sword. Alleluia See Mt 4:23 Jesus preached the Gospel of the Kingdom and cured every disease among the people.
At the risk of eardrum damage, today’s one of those days when I have to do it. I need to slap on the headphones and turn the volume up to 10. #blockingoutthenoise
I know, I know – the sheer idiocy of doing what I have chastised my son for since he was old enough to don a headset. #hypocrisy
Okay, I’ll try to keep it to a 7. Or 8. Um, 8.75, tops. Sigh.
It’s just that, on a day like today, the ends justify the means. And the means would be my sanity, yo. #notkidding
Because there are times in the busy everyday lives of the humans when they just need to drown out the crud and make their own joyful noise, you dig? You know, days when the office phone won’t stop ringing and the IM won’t stop pinging and your cell phone keeps on dinging and you realize, you need to be singing (in your head, anyway) -- otherwise, you may start swinging, Capisce?
So, when the stressors in your orbit are mounting faster than snowflakes in Buffalo … take a moment. Find your comfort music selection. Affix your earbuds or head phones securely. Then turn the volume up. Way up. #isntthatbetter
Decompress and dance to the beat of your own eardrums, yo. #musicmakesyouhappy
Ps 89:20, 21-22, 27-28 R. (21a) I have found David, my servant. Once you spoke in a vision, and to your faithful ones you said: "On a champion I have placed a crown; over the people I have set a youth." "I have found David, my servant; with my holy oil I have anointed him, That my hand may be always with him, and that my arm may make him strong." "He shall say of me, 'You are my father, my God, the Rock, my savior.' And I will make him the first-born, highest of the kings of the earth." Alleluia See Eph 1:17-18 May the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ enlighten the eyes of our hearts, that we may know what is the hope that belongs to our call.
Have you ever noticed how we humans are never satisfied? Ungrateful little buggers are we. Even the best of us. #beinghuman
For instance, we always want something we don't or cannot have. Like more inches of height (or less if you're self-conscious about being tall)...Or straight hair (if yours is wiry and unruly like mine)...Or curly hair (if yours is poker straight)...Or, um, hair.
I digress. Either way, we always seem to be disgruntled or uneasy...especially when we think things aren't going in our favor -- and even when they are?
I mean, there are some of us who are actually terrified, when all seems right with the world, that some horrible fate awaits us just around the next corner. #worryisuseless #whydoidoit
And that's when we all need to stop, breathe and ponder these wise words from Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.:
"Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase."
As relevant as ever, Dr. King's insight is spot on for me today. #whathesaid Honoring him, all for which he stood and, of course, the One he always praised.
So, I'm confidently taking the first step up the staircase by trying to appreciate every moment of every day --- even the bad hair ones.
Ps 50:8-9, 16bc-17, 21 and 23 R. (23b) To the upright I will show the saving power of God. "Not for your sacrifices do I rebuke you, for your burnt offerings are before me always. I take from your house no bullock, no goats out of your fold." "Why do you recite my statutes, and profess my covenant with your mouth, Though you hate discipline and cast my words behind you?" "When you do these things, shall I be deaf to it? Or do you think that I am like yourself? I will correct you by drawing them up before your eyes. He that offers praise as a sacrifice glorifies me; and to him that goes the right way I will show the salvation of God." Alleluia Hb 4:12 The word of God is living and effective,able to discern reflections and thoughts of the heart.
Ps 40:2, 4, 7-8, 8-9, 10 R. (8a and 9a) Here am I, Lord; I come to do your will. I have waited, waited for the LORD, and he stooped toward me and heard my cry. And he put a new song into my mouth, a hymn to our God.Sacrifice or offering you wished not,but ears open to obedience you gave me.Holocausts or sin-offerings you sought not; then said I, "Behold I come.""In the written scroll it is prescribed for me, to do your will, O my God, is my delight, and your law is within my heart!" I announced your justice in the vast assembly; I did not restrain my lips, as you, O LORD, know.
You know that feeling you get when it's the night of your team's biggest fundraiser and the forecast is so apocalyptic that the whole town seems to be shutting down? #wearestillhavingthequarterauction
And your favorite NBA team is playing worse than you did on your junior high squad ... when you only scored two points all season? And the haters come out of the woodwork to rub your nose in it? #stilllovemycavs #butpleasestoplosing
And you say something boneheaded to your sister and immediately regret it and wish you could swallow your entire leg instead of just eating the foot you just stuck in your mouth? #sorrybeans
And to top it all off; your top is way off...as in your having the worst, crazy hair day EVER. #brillopadhead
Oh you don't? Well, it's sorta not great. Sigh.
But then, just when you feel like a big old honking hot mess of a screw up -- your girlfriend smiles at you and tells you how fabulous you are. Aw, I love you, Diane. #friendsmakelifeworthliving
Hang in there. You may be having a super weird, off day and feel like you're the biggest jerk this side of Kim Jong Un (okay, nobody's quite THAT bad).
But there's at least one person out there who thinks you're pretty okay. And PK's on the list.
#hangtough #youareawesome #keeptrying
Ps 89:16-17, 18-19 R. (2) For ever I will sing the goodness of the Lord. Blessed the people who know the joyful shout; in the light of your countenance, O LORD, they walk. At your name they rejoice all the day, and through your justice they are exalted. R. For ever I will sing the goodness of the Lord. For you are the splendor of their strength, and by your favor our horn is exalted. For to the LORD belongs our shield, and to the Holy One of Israel, our King. Alleluia Lk 7:16 A great prophet has arisen in our midst and God has visited his people.
Um, I don't want to pressure anybody or anything.
It's just that -- well, it's time, yo.
Time to de-deck the halls...to untrim the tree...to take Santa down off the rooftop, you dig?
And I'm saying this as gently as possible but it's mid freaking January, people; get on with it, already!
Tune into this space on Sunday for my column "Ho Ho Hoping the Tree Falls Soon" --- Christmas extenders beware... ;-)
Mt. 4:23 Alleluia, alleluia. Jesus preached the Gospel of the Kingdom and cured every disease among the people. . Gospel Mk 1:40-45 A leper came to him and kneeling down begged him and said, "If you wish, you can make me clean." Moved with pity, he stretched out his hand, touched the leper, and said to him, "I do will it. Be made clean." The leprosy left him immediately, and he was made clean. Then, warning him sternly, he dismissed him at once. Then he said to him, "See that you tell no one anything, but go, show yourself to the priest and offer for your cleansing what Moses prescribed; that will be proof for them." The man went away and began to publicize the whole matter. He spread the report abroad so that it was impossible for Jesus to enter a town openly. He remained outside in deserted places, and people kept coming to him from everywhere.
Sigh. Sometimes, the odds are stacked high against you.
There you are, just chugging along, doing your thing...and sometimes incredibly well. Maybe a little too well?
Everything is going swimmingly; all seems right with the world - maybe you even had a little victory in your day and then BAM! Outta nowhere it happens.
You get detention. Or a ticket. Or your relay team gets disqualified. And you weren’t even late ... or speeding ... and you DID NOT FALSE START.
That’s the thing about life - some days you’re the windshield, some days you’re the bug as the old adage states. #crud
Then again, some days, you’re the driver of the car that gets hit by a piece of gravel that flies up off the road and not only crushes the bug that hit the windshield, but also splits a crack that quickly spans the whole width of the dang car, capisce? #morecrud
That’s okay. Because into every life, a little crud must creep. Guess what? Karma, that’s what.
So, take the detention, even though you only got it because the kids AROUND you were talking during class. Smile and accept the speeding citation, even though you know in your heart of hearts you were only going two miles over the limit. Graciously accept the DQ, even though you literally have a video proving otherwise.
Tomorrow is your turn to be the windshield. And the forecast calls for sunshine all the live long day, you dig?
#hanginthere #karma #whatgoesaroundcomesaround
Ps 40:2 and 5, 7-8a, 8b-9, 10 R. (8a and 9a) Here am I, Lord; I come to do your will. I have waited, waited for the LORD, and he stooped toward me and heard my cry. Blessed the man who makes the LORD his trust; who turns not to idolatry or to those who stray after falsehood. Sacrifice or oblation you wished not, but ears open to obedience you gave me. Burnt offerings or sin-offerings you sought not; then said I, "Behold I come." "In the written scroll it is prescribed for me. To do your will, O my God, is my delight, and your law is within my heart!" I announced your justice in the vast assembly; did not restrain my lips, as you, O LORD, know.Jn 10:27 . Alleluia, alleluia. My sheep hear my voice, says the Lord. I know them, and they follow me.